Think of how you feel when a person goes above and beyond for you. Think back to a moment when a stranger paid for your meal or held the door open, even when you were walking slow. Reminisce on a time when you received excellent service and how that made an impression on you. Then think of all of the missed opportunities you had to change the trajectory of someones day or life by simple going the extra mile. Many of us operate in mediocrity, but expect excellence from others. You attract who you are and too many of us are operating below our capabilities. There is so much more that we could be doing, but we are waiting for someone to tell us each step to take. We are looking at everyone else’s material blessings and wishing for their life, without ever thinking about the sacrifice that they had to make to obtain those things. We focus on getting more without giving more.
“Excellence is a continuously moving target that can be pursued through actions of integrity, being frontrunner in terms of products / services provided that are reliable and safe for the intended users, meeting all obligations and continuously learning and improving in all spheres to pursue the moving target.” This summer was a life changing experience for me. I woke up and realized that if I wanted more and if I expected more that I had to give more. I had to step outside of my comfort zone and stop holding onto the things that I had accumulated over the years. I had to release what I was cherishing as my current accomplishments and reach higher. I realized that I had reached a level of mediocrity, but I still wanted a greater return.
Relationships are constantly evolving and even if the growth is not happening at the same time, one person cannot stop growing while the other person catches up. I realized that I had to step up in my relationship and give more even if I felt that I always gave more. It is easy to exalt our perfections while we magnify another person’s flaws, forgetting that we have things to work on ourselves. Operating at a level of excellence means that the bar is always being raised, no matter how high you have gone. I have to work on being a better mother, wife, friend, and family member. Even where I am strong, I can be stronger. Where I am weak, I can build and one day add that to my strengths.
Dream jobs are not always obtained but many times they are created. Instead of seeking the perfect position, be excellent where you are and either continue to look for the next opportunity or create the opportunity in a place you love. We are constantly disappointed by unrealistic expectations. We expect our next position to be “the one” that leads to a magical experience and constant promotions. We go in with a sense of entitlement, instead a willingness and openness to learn. Even after being in a position for a significant amount of time, you still have to work excellently in order to show your consistency. Never feel that you are above learning or beyond teaching. People follow those who desire to learn more. They follow those who have an ambitious spirit that is greater than their personal aspirations. Be an excellent follower to show how you can be an excellent leader.
Never underestimate your value. Many times we feel that we need to do more in order to have access to the perfect opportunities. That is usually not the truth. Many successful people simply get an opportunity and make the most of it. They are calculated and strategic with their moves and leverage the opportunity to maximize its value. Networking and connections will lead you to your dream job before obtaining all of the degrees in the world. We have to believe that we have the capabilities to be the best and never doubt our skills, experiences, or our drive. Strategy + patience + willingness to learn = success.
If you think that you are ready for the next level then keep learning, honing your skills, and showing how driven you are. Make the connections and be ambitious, but never get too far ahead of yourself that you lose track of where you are going. Let people know how talented you are, but never boast or become egotistical. Stay humble through this process and watch the doors fly open. Your time is coming. Be patient and learn from those who are where you want to be. Do not envy or question others success, but use their mistakes to guide you away from any future pitfalls and as a blueprint for your moment.
Be strategic. Be patient. Be willing to learn. Be successful. Be you. Do you. Tell your own story. On your own terms.