Over the past few weeks I have met some amazing women who are doing spectacular things. The further I go in life, the more excited I am to be around successful women who are living out their dreams and creating their own lanes. Society has focused on the conversation “Can Women Have It All?,” while women are out there having it all and some. I have rarely walked into a room full of powerful women who were ever complaining about not having it all.
Yesterday I had the deepest revelation of my role in my marriage. Despite the fact that I feel like I do so much, I realize I am able to do it and still enjoy everything in life. I am able to balance motherhood, being a wife, cooking, cleaning, handling our finances, thinking for the future, all of my personal endeavors, and a few fun activities every now and then and never miss a beat. Instead of resenting my ability to juggle it all, I am accepting my power and taking pride in who I am.
I have come to accept that who I am as a woman is not a burden or a strain, but how I was designed. One of the faults with societal pressure is that all women are forced to feel that their lot in life is to do certain things, but in reality everyone was not created that way. I applaud and admire any woman who decides not to be a mother, to not get married, or to live life outside the box of social norms. That is their choice and they took control of their narrative instead of walking down an assumed path. That does not make them less of a woman than me. We are both as powerful individually and even more powerful together.
I am releasing the pressure to live within a box or to see the women around me as different because of the choices they have made. Motherhood is amazing, but so was life prior to motherhood. Being married is amazing, but so was the summer when I moved back to DC single and free. We lived that summer honey. Juggling life is amazing, but so are quiet moments in the bed doing nothing. No one writes the agenda for women, we are writing our own and taking pride in our decisions.
Women have been marginalized in so many areas of life, but as we break through barriers, glass ceilings, and kick down doors, everyone is starting to realize we always belonged in the room in the first place. We are no longer asking for a seat at the table as a minority, but creating our own circles of power with women of like minds and spirits. We have our own table. You can’t sit with us. We are reclaiming our power and doing whatever we want. There are no limits to who we are as women. We were not made in a shadow, but in an image of greatness, excellence, and power.
I am who I am because I rejected the guilt of not being someone I was never designed to be. I am where I am because I love myself for who I am. I am going to another level because I am working with women who are fearless, flawless, and fierce. We are woman, hear us roar. This growth and connection is so natural. We are not taking over, but stepping into our rightful places.
We are the history makers of tomorrow. Let’s make history. Be you. Do you. Tell your own story. On your own terms.